How to Use Fitness to Find Out if a Mate is Really the Right One

Everyone knows that a healthy relationship can be very difficult to find. Many singles meet who they think is the perfect mate only to be let down when the person is not what they appeared to be. Often several months and a lot of emotional energy is wasted before this discovery can be made.

Various studies indicate that approximately 53 percent of marriages in California end in divorce. Most relationships start off really great. There is nothing like the excitement that comes with a new relationship, but once the novelty wears off it is easier to then find out if your mate is truly compatible with you.

Everything was going really great until I brought a potential mate to the gym. In the middle of our intense workout, when she exceeded her fitness threshold, her true personality came out. She started whining, talking down to me and I even caught her flat out lying about how many reps she did. Whining, talking down and lying are not the qualities I was looking for.

“Come Out, Come Out, Whoever You Are”

Certain circumstances in life push people to their limit – and sometimes even beyond. When people get to their breaking point, their strengths and weaknesses become very apparent. It’s like giving someone a truth serum. Unfortunately, a lot of the situations that induce this unveiling are not very healthy. I started bringing anyone that I dated to the gym to go through one of my workouts. I learned as much about someone’s character in one hour as it would normally take me about three months to learn.

I have now been happily married for 9 years with two beautiful kids, and yes, I did workout with my wife before we got married.

Keeping the Relationship Strong

This matchmaking technique does not just work for finding the perfect partner. It doubles as a relationship strengthener. After the new car smell of a relationship is gone, a lot of couples find themselves bored with nothing exciting to share. Going through a heart-pounding, sweat-pouring, exhausting workout with your significant other is a great way to put the excitement back in to your relationship.”

It is so bonding when couples get in their car after a workout, panting and dripping with sweat. The whole drive home consists of conversations like, “I can’t believe we ran that fast for that long,” or “Didn’t you think your lungs were going to explode?” and “I can’t even lift my arms, can you?” They have smiles on their faces all the way home.